Questions that are Taboo on Hair Boards

[~Ani~]

Do people with texturizers get dogged out that bad for real?  I can't tell a texturizer from somebody's natural hair.  In my opinion, neither can a lot of people.  I've had people ask me if my hair is texturized.  People that have seen my fotki know damn well if this was a texturizer then..um..well it didn't take.  My ish is too thick

WHY do people spend so much time tripping off whether it's a texturizer or weave?  I think it's because some people try to lie about having that "good hurr".  ITA w/ Anika.  Just keep it real.   By the way Anika, when I did see your hair for the first time, I didn't know it was a texturizer.  I am a complete hair illiterate.  I know more about my hair now than when I was relaxed. 

Sorry, I'm turning this into the rambling thread. 

And what is a lacefront?  Can someone show me a picture?  Is it a wig of some sort?  What makes it different from other wigs that it has its own designation?

ITA

Yeah, my hair texture looks much the same as my natural texture it is just much easier to detangle and less shrinkage...but I can really tell when my hair is wet. It so obvious then.

But I'm growing out my texturizer because I notice my ends getting too straight and that scares me. It's just so much easier to deal with my natural hair...but this is all so new to me because I had no experience with relaxers until about a year ago. I can see how they become addictive because going through the awkward transitioning phase takes patience.

That's why I changed my avatar to Cree Summer. Her big fluffy hair reminds me of my own natural hair. My texturized hair is similar but I've lost volume (fluffiness) and I miss it.

Some people I can tell with and some people I can't. It justs so weird when it's really obvious (meaning a bad, overprocessed job) and still people are calling their hair natural. That's just silly to me.

In other case, I just wonder because I'd have a few questions/tips I'd like to ask them, etc.

But I guess it's nobody's business really.

I'm not sure what a lace front is. I always thought it was like half a wig.

[AGAPELOVE]

OMG...I just flatlined!!!

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Girl, you crazy! LMAO 

[Curlilocs]

Ok here's my question.  If you all will notice, I stay out of a lot of the heated discussions in regard to texture, acceptance, yada yada yada unless I'm really moved to make a comment........but could it possible be that someone has a preference of how they want to wear their hair purely due to asthetics???  Must everything always be related to a root cause of self hate, lack of acceptance, stereotypes perpetuated since chattle slavery, blah, blah, blah...I'm just asking?

[Curlilocs]

Riddle me this...

What's the point of piling all these products on top of one another?  I mean really?  I know different heads, different methods...but does it really take all that?

ETA: no offense to anyone that does this, but this has always baffled me, even as a permie.

Now this one gets me too!

[spiderlashes5000]

OK, here's one:  Why all the objection to White people claiming their hair is an "Afro?"  I mean, they're not African...but for the sake of expediency, is it wrong to say their hair is (or is like) an "Afro?"  I normally wouldn't have a problem with it but it's usually said in a disparaging manner.  But even when it's not, I see Black folks getting really offended.

[rayness]

And what is a lacefront?  Can someone show me a picture?  Is it a wig of some sort?  What makes it different from other wigs that it has its own designation?

Tyra Banks wears one on her talk show.  Hummm let me see if I can find you a picture....







There you go bubbles76 I found some for you.  You have to attach them (the lace front of the wig) with some kind of adhesive.   They are supose to look more natural than regular wigs.

[~Ani~]

OK, here's one:  Why all the objection to White people claiming their hair is an "Afro?"  I mean, they're not African...but for the sake of expediency, is it wrong to say their hair is (or is like) an "Afro?"  I normally wouldn't have a problem with it but it's usually said in a disparaging manner.  But even when it's not, I see Black folks getting really offended.

I think some white people have afro's. I don't have any problem with saying some.

[jeamaria]

OK, here's one:  Why all the objection to White people claiming their hair is an "Afro?"  I mean, they're not African...but for the sake of expediency, is it wrong to say their hair is (or is like) an "Afro?"  I normally wouldn't have a problem with it but it's usually said in a disparaging manner.  But even when it's not, I see Black folks getting really offended.

Well, when it's not in a disrespectful way, and when it is accurate, I don't see the problem. What I can't stand is when people with straight hair say "I'm getting an afro" when their hair starts to get frizzy in the rain. That's straight up disrespect, especially with how the word literally means African, in addition to being the natural form of most African people's hair.

In terms of  "white afro"- I can see why the latter sounds a little mocking to people; it does have a touch of the oxymoron to it, which could make it sound like a joke (at their expense).

[curly4life]

Ok here's my question.  If you all will notice, I stay out of a lot of the heated discussions in regard to texture, acceptance, yada yada yada unless I'm really moved to make a comment........but could it possible be that someone has a preference of how they want to wear their hair purely due to asthetics???  Must everything always be related to a root cause of self hate, lack of acceptance, stereotypes perpetuated since chattle slavery, blah, blah, blah...I'm just asking?

Same sentiment as Curlilocs and same question...

As for texturizers, I had one for several years up until my BC this year.  I can say that over time it did damage my hair (became thin and fragile), but as I am here in Germany (before the hair boards), I had no idea how to take care of my hair.  Now, that I do, texturizers are no longer something to be considered and my hair is happier for it.

[Amber]

I don't get when people stress that they are natural but never wear their natural texture by pressing it all the time.  What's the point?  Not that I have a problem with flat ironed hair, I was thinking of doing mine this week but I'm just too lazy, lol.

I can't think of anything else right now.....

[MissEmbrya]

Honestly, 95% of the the texturizers Ive seen are a damn mess. Rarely do they come out looking right. They look like the curly chicks who press their to DEATH. It just looks damaged. It's not attractive to me. I have outrageously thick hair too, but I'll be damned if I bother with the hassle of a texturizer. That's just doing too much.

   IA!  Though I distinctly remember 2 chicks on another website who looked like they had texturizers, but when I checked their albums, they were complaining of heat damage.

[MissEmbrya]

My taboo ? is to the lurkers --> why are you here and why won't you join and post? 

[keepitmovin]

Ok, here's my beef:

I don't get the nappier/curlier than thou attitudes and the need to differentiate how much product you put in your hair vs. what someone else puts in theirs....does it really matter if you will never do that?  There are so many hair care routines that I just can't follow because it's too much for me, but it never occurred to me to "look down" on those people who do extra things to get their hair the way THEY want it.  Advice is one thing, being a natural hair snob is another.

Why is fighting frizz always seen as a bad thing amongst black women with natural hair?  Frizz is universal.  And some folks don't want a head full of it, I know I don't.

If relaxing/pressing/texturizing or whatever makes a woman take better care of her hair ('cause some folks will pamper their relaxed hair but won't do a damn thing with the natural), then why is it a stressor for other folks that someone chooses to relax/straighten/texturize their hair?  It all seems like far too big of a deal to me.

I just don't think it's always deeper than "it's just hair."

[jazzi]

Ok here's my question.  If you all will notice, I stay out of a lot of the heated discussions in regard to texture, acceptance, yada yada yada unless I'm really moved to make a comment........but could it possible be that someone has a preference of how they want to wear their hair purely due to asthetics???  Must everything always be related to a root cause of self hate, lack of acceptance, stereotypes perpetuated since chattle slavery, blah, blah, blah...I'm just asking?

Nope, It's about self-hate! 

On texturizers again: I don't mean to make anyone feel bad about having one.  I hope it's not coming out that way.  It's just that with the exception of men and ladies w ultra short do's, I've never seen one that looks nice.  I'm sorry.

On White fro's: Curls aren't raced biased.  If a non-Black has an afro, it's an afro.

I don't get the nappier/curlier than thou attitudes and the need to differentiate how much product you put in your hair vs. what someone else puts in theirs....does it really matter if you will never do that?  There are so many hair care routines that I just can't follow because it's too much for me, but it never occurred to me to "look down" on those people who do extra things to get their hair the way THEY want it.  Advice is one thing, being a natural hair snob is another.

I can't help but think this is directed toward me.  I don't think it's about turning up the nose, I think it's about letting sisters know they don't have to do all that, and there are other methods to attaining a certain look...without the excess.  My intent is to stress healthy hair care.  If you see that as being a "snob" that's on you.

[keepitmovin]

I thought this thread was about saying what you wanted to say without it being taken personally and that everybody had the right to express what their thoughts without it getting ugly...I guess that only applies to certain people.  My bad.